With the launch of BlogBourne, there are many who will go through the motions of becoming part of another community.
They are anxious to get started, and do so, by writing their quick biography and setting up a profile page. They follow the the instructions to write the introductory post in the forum, and then (almost immediately) post their first 400-word post. Then, they go down the list of members, requesting as many “friendships” as they can fit into their first time on the site.
Occasionally, there will be one or two who will go through the forums to respond to the posts. If you happen to be one of those who is lucky enough to be the recipient of those responses, you may have the opportunity to add a reply to each of those responses, whether you genuinely get to know the person on the other side of the screen or not.
Of course, there are many who have made their judgments about others from previous sites or interaction with one another. They may talk behind the scenes, or speak in code. Some may label or brand others with titles, such as: “She-who-thinks-highly-of-herself.” (This was a laughable title I received a year or so ago from “Someone-who-hates-to-be-challenged-to-think.” )
Part of getting to know others is to be WILLING to accept that another’s experience is different than yours, but ALSO being willing to try to understand the personality and viewpoint of another person, before becoming offended by them. If we cannot accept one another, and get into discussions that challenge us to look beyond the noses on our faces or think beyond what our limited version of the world is, regardless of how smart or traveled or well-read we may think we are, then we will always feel slighted, picked-on, or offended.
To begin to get to know someone here on BlogBourne, you start by reading their introductory post in the Member Forum. Each person will approach it differently, so keep that in mind when you start to get to know someone. Some might try to temper their introductions in an attempt to get everyone to like and accept them. Others may show a gutsier introduction in their effort to be transparent, so that there are no surprises later on, when they play “devil’s advocate” in a discussion.
Acknowledge one another in these introduction posts. Pick something that you appreciate about them in the post they have shared. It might be the first time that someone has shared this part of themselves so vulnerably.
From this introductory post, continue to read what people write over a period of time, instead of making a hard and fast judgment of our members. Get into conversations with one another. You may just find that there are many commonalities in personality, fears, upbringing, strengths, and weaknesses with these people.
If we are to know one another here at BlogBourne, we must be willing to to support one another as part of a community, regardless of our differences. This does not mean we will always agree, nor will we always like or appreciate everyone.
This is not a medieval king/queen-dom where we should sit on our Thrones of Judgement, ready to lop-off one another’s heads at the Guillotine of Unwarranted Labels. Nor should we relegate them to the Dungeon of Eternal Blocking.
To be a part of a community suggests we learn to live with a level of inclusiveness, rather than exclusiveness. Even if it does turn out to be a King-/Queendom, remember there will always be a Court Jester. Sometimes, we all can use a laugh or two.
Let us all look forward to getting to know one another, and celebrate what each of us can contribute.
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