Social Media: Friend or Foe?

With so many changes in the world, it may seem that social media is a place where everyone and anyone can say what is on their mind without giving a thought to who will be hurt by their comments. It does seem that the social platforms used by many are now a tool to say the most blatant things. Often things are said by someone online that the same person might never say in person to anyone.

If social media makes some bolder: It might be a good thing in certain cases if a person becomes a little bolder because they use social media. Some have found they are able to be in contact with others who have similar beliefs or feelings. This is often helpful for those needing support.

Others may use social medial to point out what they don’t like about a person or a group of people. The statements are often rude and hurtful, however, they are often allowed unless reported. Social media sites do remove some remarks that seem too hateful, but many comments or statements are allowed to remain.

In recent months, many have used social media sites to end friendships. Imagine being friends with someone for years, then learning that, due to a difference of opinion, you are now not friends. No more talking at work, on the bus, in the public places that you once visited together. Does any of this make sense?

While there are certainly situations where we would not want to be friends with particular ones for various reasons, maybe we should all think twice. Are we really so wanting to control some people in our lives that we think they absolutely must think like us? Walk like us? Talk like us?

What about social media sites shared where friends and family visit? Perhaps social media sites that are frequented by our family members and friends would not be the best place to air our personal views about everything in the world. Or, if we do, would it be possible to soften what we have to say? This could mean phrasing statements in a better way. For instance, is there really any reason for cursing when we make a statement about someone we don’t like? Isn’t it often sufficient to just say we don’t agree with the view of someone and move along?

We have all read suggestions that we should exercise caution about personal information when it comes to social media pages of any sort. Don’t show pictures of personal objects and property. Don’t share the names of your children and the locations of their schools. Yet, daily we can visit a social page and see someone has done exactly what the security experts suggest we do not do.

Is it possible that those suggesting we do not be rude or intimidating to our family and friends on social pages will also be ignored by many? We all know the answer to this question through experiences we have had.

Sadly, it seems some do not think you have a right to express your thoughts. You might share a legitimate concern on a social site only to hear from many who are critical of your post. However, they will certainly want you to read their thoughts, although these might be the complete opposite of what you would agree with.

Hopefully, any social site used will be of benefit to those reading this information. Some have enjoyed connecting with people in other areas. Others like to connect with those who are involved in the same sports, religious or political activities, or who work in the same field. In such cases, social sites can be a valuable tool.


  1. Profile photo of Barbara Radisavljevic
    Barbara Radisavljevic

    Any tool can be used for good or evil. Each decides what he or she will use it for. The problem is that people believe there is no middle ground. They believe that person they don’t like can’t possibly do anything good. Yet I suppose few people ask the doctor about to operate on them about his political views. They don’t care what they are as long as he fixes what’s wrong with them. You don’t ask the firemen who come to save your house what kind of language they used in college. You just want them to save your house. It’s interesting to me that those who most often preach tolerance of everything and everyone will not tolerate those they disagree with.

    I enjoy social media sites when I have time to enjoy them. Perhaps I’ll write about some of what I appreciate about it when I have time. Mostly I use social media as part of my work.

    1. Profile photo of Pat Z Anthony
      Pat Z Anthony Post author

      Social media can be a great tool and we enjoy using it for work as well. Some just have gone too far and no doubt would in other situations as well.

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    Donna Thacker

    I think people have become to “comfortable” with social media and forget the fact that the things they post can end up anywhere, with who knows how many eyes seeing it. Some have no idea how to set their security on posts. It’s not a private discussion between friends, its a post the whole world can see.

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    Sharon Epperson

    I have noticed on some of the sites that I am on, people just use them to post what they are doing or eating at each time through the day. I don’t mind knowing a little of what they are doing, but not everything!
    I also have to delete a lot of people because they are just full of drama!
    I like social media and the internet for looking things up and keeping in touch with people, but not the other things.

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      Pat Z Anthony Post author

      The drama seems to be something we all want to do without on those sites. There are several I delete on a weekly basis.

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    Sandy KS

    I like connecting with people on social media. As I don’t get out much at all anymore. I see a few of teh same people. Not really people I call friends, except one. The others are more business associates.

    1. Profile photo of Pat Z Anthony
      Pat Z Anthony Post author

      Many of us find we are connected to and react with people we don’t know on a daily basis. It is easy at times to realize which ones are safe.

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    Gil Camporazo

    It depends on how you use it and on how you respond to the issues uploaded on the said media. But for me social media have a great help on me especially on promoting my blogs, my activities, among others. I never mind those who are too indifferent on their actions or reactions.

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