Absentee Parents: The Confusion Little Children are Subjected to in the World


My daughter Shanita

My Granddaughter Calls Me Father and Other Times Grandfather
Every child needs both a father and a mother in their life. We are supposed to be nurtured in a family but these days there is much confusion in the world as far as parenting is concerned. My granddaughter needs a father figure in her life, yet she has not been lucky to see one. All she knows is her grandfather, who is me.

Young men of today often fail to take responsibility for their children. And so when my granddaughter was born, the father whom I did not know showed a clean pair of heels. My daughter was to attend college, and so the responsibility of taking care of this sweet little angel fell to me. At times she gets so confused as to whether she should call me dad or grandpa. She then uses both. This is not an uncommon case with parenting today. She is confused about her parents, as many children in the world are.


My daughter Shanita


Men Should Be Serious in Their Relationships
You cannot have your cake and eat it too. When a man enters into a relationship with a lady, he should know what might well come out of it. Unless you behave like nuns or monks, then children will result from a romantic relationship. It is your responsibility to care for the child. Make sure you take charge. Know that the child needs food, clothing, education and shelter. Provide for all the child’s needs to avoid confusing them. Do not subject your offspring to the madness I see in the world. Be the father you want to be. If you are ready to be a lover, then be prepared to be a parent too. Take the responsibilities of parenting seriously.


Ladies Should Be Responsible Too
It is my wish that all young girls should be careful with men they allow to go all the way with. They ought to know that children may arise. If they do:
• Are those men responsible? Maybe the men are confused, as the others in the world. They are not responsible at all. They may be the ones to abandon you and your child.
• Do those men love? Very many ladies mistake a man’s lust for love. When you fall in their traps then you are finished.
• What is their background? Do those men come from families which are cheats? Avoid them.
• The best method is to have a man who is patient. You too should wait till you tie the knot. After all, life does not end today.
• Test and try that man. Is he ready for you and kids if they happen to come?

Children need care and love. Parenting should always be taken seriously. Young men and women who are not ready to take on the responsibilities of being a parent should take the necessary precautions to avoid an unplanned pregnancy. Do not subject children to the madness of the world.


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  1. Kyla Matton Osborne

    It’s true that both young men and young women should take responsibility in a romantic relationship. And if the couple is not ready to parent together, ultimately they should abstain from sexual relations.

    1. Kyla Matton Osborne

      Access to affordable contraception and reliable information about reproduction is so important. Aside from securing an education for girls, it’s probably one of the biggest factors in fighting poverty in certain parts of the world.

    2. Kyla Matton Osborne

      It’s more an issue of not being given access to affordable contraceptives or being discouraged from using them. In many parts of the world – notably the US – there are people who would rather forbid them the knowledge than to keep our young people safe 🙁

  2. Andria Perry

    Its sad that so many women are left with raising the children these days. But I am seeing a rise of fathers taking the children due to the mother being unfit, mostly being on drugs.

    I was lucky, when my mom died my dad stepped up and took excellent care of me and my little sister.

    I tweeted this article.

  3. Gil Camporazo

    That is and it should be and it must be – parenting is a serious matter for a father and mother to consider. The rearing up of children is the responsible of their parents. The education which the children need is to be provided by their parents. However, there is an exception. A child is born without a parent. His mother has abandoned him. So as with his mother is abandoned by his father.

    1. Gil Camporazo

      What about teenage parents? They don’t have enough experience to raise a child. What they usually do are leaving the child to their parents or close relatives.

  4. Rex Trulove

    Our pastor traveled to Oregon a couple of weeks ago to perform a wedding. He had to share the story of the wedding of those two very Christian people, both in their very late teens. At the end of the ceremony, Jim was able to say something he very rarely never gets to say, “You may now kiss the bride…for the very first time!” You read that right, they hadn’t even kissed each other before that moment. The closest they ever got to sex was holding hands.

    From the sound of it, in the counseling that always goes on before the wedding, both young adults had the right attitude and had carefully considered and talked about everything before getting married. I firmly believe that God is going to do wonderful things in their lives.

  5. Pat Z Anthony

    Don’t start to date unless you are hunting for a mate.

    That was on a sign somewhere and does make sense. Too many are not thinking clearly about relationships and what happens next!

  6. Sandy KS

    I agree, both men and women need to take responsibility when choosing amate or dating. If one of them is not ready to be a parent or take precautions to prevent pregnancy. They have no buisness being in a relationship or having intercourse.

    Sad that dating has now become hooking up for the younger generation. Where dating has been thrown out the window.

    1. Sandy KS

      Actually we do still have virgins in the world. There are many in the USA.

    2. Sandy KS

      Good thing it doesn’t have to be the truth for you to believe it. I know many who refuse to do anything other than holding hands til they get married. I also know many teen girls who are still virgins.

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