Biological children vs. Adoption

My daughter called me yesterday to talk, and our coversation came to children.
She and her husband had been talking to some of their friends about maybe going to a fertility specialist to see why they cant have children. They then changed their minds and decided that they are just going to try to adopt, when the time is right for them to do so.
She has told some friends and family that haven’t been supportive of that decision. They tell them that they need to keep trying to have their own. Some have even told them that if they adopt and have one of their own that the biological one will be mean to the adopted one. I know many families that have had this happen and the kids get along great!
When she asked my opinion, I told her that I agree with them on the adoption. I cant see going and trying to find out what is wrong when there are so many kids that are asslready born and need a loving home. I will treat any of my grandchildren as such, I dont say step or adopted! They are all my grandchildren.
I love all of my kids and just want them to be happy. No matter how the child comes to our family, it will still be ours!


  1. Kyla Matton Osborne

    When I was younger, I babysat for a family who had adopted a boy when they couldn’t conceive. Holding that little baby seemed to help things along, and they soon had a little girl who was their biological child. Those two kids loved each other so much! The parents had taught the boy that he was very special because he was so wanted. And his sister was unique too because she grew in Mommy’s tummy. They taught him that they were both precious children, but that he was the older sibling and should look out for his sister. And so he did!

    I can’t say it will be easy to adopt an infant – if that’s what your daughter is hoping for. I was adopted almost 50 years ago. And even then, the process took about two years. Today, there are very few healthy babies available for adoption. Most are older children who were held back because of a health concern, or children who were surrendered late or taken from an unstable home. But all of these children need good parents. And all of them have a lot of love to give 🙂

    I hope that your daughter is able to find a child who needs a good home and who will fill her life with joy! It’s wonderful that she has these options available, and she should follow her heart.

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