Check Yourself – Are You One of Them?

You are forgiving but others are not or the other way around.

We may have different views and interpretations as far as the Bible’s passages are concerned in line with the topic on “unforgiveness”. I take time out searching the different situations in the Bible about “unforgiveness” and the fate of those who were unforgiving for nurturing that hard attitude to forgive others who sinned against them. This Sunday seems to discuss that matter for we are much concerned as a Christian the future of those hard-headed people who remain unforgiving as they live or even forever which seems impossible, but there are who are like that.

The Unforgiving

We believe that there is a Father in heaven who cares and loves us. He won’t forgive us if we don’t forgive our fellow beings who trespassed against us. (Mark 11:26; Matthew 6:15) He looks at our hearts if we are forgiving or not. (Matthew 18:35).

In Isaiah 2:9, this tells about a man who is mean. Though he humbles himself yet he shouldn’t be forgiven and so as with the “great man”. Why? What’s wrong with them? What is being “mean”? What is being “great”? These are the attitudes of men that don’t deserve to be forgiven.

In like manner, there are people who couldn’t understand especially those spiritual things. They do things contrary to the norms and standards of the society for they don’t know what they are doing. However they may have the chance to be forgiven when they forsake those sinful ways they have been to. (Mark 4:12)

God is love. God cares but He is a “jealous God”. We should serve Him none other else. If not, He won’t forgive transgressions or sins. It is in service that we deserve His forgiveness. (Joshua 24:19) And this one is the so-called the unpardonable sin if we blaspheme against the Holy Ghost. And it would be our eternal damnation. (Mark 3:29)

Great sorrow is suffered by those who haven’t forgiven. (2 Corinthians 2:7)

Why Should They Be Forgiving?

This seems to be in contradiction to the previous verse. God is merciful and forgiving though we go against His will by being rebellious. (Daniel 9:9)

We should forgive others for our sins have remitted by Jesus’ blood. (Colossians 1:14) We worry and are afraid of Him for the sins we have committed. But we don’t know that there is forgiveness. (Psalms 130:4)

For God Himself is doing the missionary work and preaching the true spirit of forgiveness. (Acts 13:38) That is why we should be obedient. We should practice what we teach.

In Acts 26:18, the content of such preaching is to let those sinners know the truth, to entice them of doing good and what is right and let them accept the spiritual power of God over the workings of the Devil.

Being forgiving is exemplified by those who want to be forgiven of their own sins too. As what the Golden Rule so declares we should support it for hate begets hate and love begets love. (Luke 6:37) It is further declared by Luke 11:4 as what Jesus prayed.

What Extent We Should Forgive?

It is simply stated in Luke 7:47 that much had been committed, much love is needed. Likewise, whom little is forgiven, little love is required.

It is required that we should be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another. In so doing, God will forgive us. (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13)

It is praying that we could set ourselves to be forgiving for we know that we have the Father in Heaven who would forgive us. (Mark 11:25) Aside from prayer, we should repent and have in our heart the faithful desire to forgive others. (Acts 8:22) And we should tell Him our unrighteousness, our sins. In so doing, we will be cleansed. (1 John 1:9)

To what extend we should forgive, it is seven times seven. (Matthew 18:21; Luke 17:4)

The Lord is good, ready to forgive, and merciful. (Psalms 86:5) What else can we do?

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  1. John Paul Quiambao

    i was actually thinking of writing an article like this for one of my next articles. you gave an idea on how i should create that post. thanks so much. Honestly, I was actually one these before, though I’m really thankful that I was able to experience God’s grace and eventually started to learn how to forgive. Great post here! Thanks!

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Go ahead. As a writer, you have the freewill or the freedom to make your own style of writing. Remember writing is an art. It depends on how the writer expresses his ideas in various forms and styles.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      That is correct. Everyone is relieved of stress and new feeling of comfort is felt.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Peace of mind is not only gained of being non-trouble maker but the attitude of being forgiving either in minute mistake or big.

  2. Fred

    Forgiveness is a topic that is very much in the news these days. We always hear “forgive and forget”. I think we can forgive without forgetting the lessons we learned from that unfortunate incident. Forgiveness does not always mean you have to forget.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Actually that is the very reason why I come up with this article. I know everyone of them has the reason why they are unforgiving and also forgiving is a requirement to have a national healing and reconciliation.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Since the world begun, wars and rumors of wars were prevalent. They did exist for the very reason of pride and of being unforgiving due to hatred, retribution, and undue retaliation.

  3. Stargazer

    You know what they say, forgive and forget. But personally, I’d rather think that we should forgive, but don’t make a mistake to trust the same person.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Everyone has his own reason when he forgives but he couldn’t forget and the other way around. But an absolutely peace is or could be attained in the premise of forgive and forget.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      It was what the Bible says, “a tooth for a tooth”, “a teeth for a teeth.” But Jesus Christ Himself has set an example to forgive those who forgive others and remember them no more.

  4. Bhushavali

    While forgiving is one thing, forgetting is another thing altogether. Though we may forgive, for eg., a cheating spouse, its not easy to forget for that’s what keeps us cautious. Once bitten twice shy, right!

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      As a human being, that is correct. You have an emotion and the feeling of being retaliatable or return what is due to get even. In Christlike way, it is not absolutely. He once said to Mary Magdalene, “Go you way and sin no more.”

  5. The Ordinary Girl

    In my religion, we are taught to forgive the way we want God to forgive us and we want God to forgive us unconditionally. But, as humans we are too weak to have this great quality that too with the magnitude that God has. But we can at least try to be as forgiving as possible.

    I find it hard to forgive people who have wronged me in ways that has done damage that can’t be repaired. Mostly spiritual wounds that I cannot heal. While I so easily forgive those who cause me any physical pain, monetary loss that I know will heal soon.

    I need to learn to forgive really!

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      That is a good attitude, hoping things to get well and healed soon. Forgiving is easy but forgetting is no easy. But time heals.

  6. Shub

    Forgiveness is a great quality! We should forgive to free ourselves mainly…I can forgive but cannot forget. Would not trust or be friends with that person again!

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      It is easy to forgive and it is difficult to forget. I know everyone has his own way of dealing those who trespassed again him. But for the sake of peace of mind between the person and offended one is to absolutely forgive and forget.

  7. Elizabeth O

    We forgive so we can move on. In the long run, it benefits the forgiver more than the forgiven. Life is too short to hold grudges.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      That is absolutely correct why they keep on hating others when life is just a temporary in nature. How could they enjoy their life for that kind of attitude they have had?

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      You may be right and you may be not. For a Christian, they know what is wrong and what is right. They know what is the proper way to handle such dilemma to have a peace of mind. For those who are non-Christians, they have their own conscience to tell them of what is acceptable and what is not.

  8. Tiffany Yong

    Oh wow, a really deep article. I am forgiving only to a certain extent. I don’t like confrontation, so I usually give in, but forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      Thanks… This is only done in the manner how the Bible says so especially the great example set by Jesus Christ.

  9. Sandy KS

    Thank you for sharing this article. It is something I needed to read. I do forgive those who hurt me. yet, I needed a refresher course of what you shared. I don’t think you know how much this article helped me

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      I am so glad to know that. It takes a humble heart, a willing spirit to be forgiving and to forgive and forget.

  10. Ceci

    Thanks for remind me on this good value of life again. We should forgive others for their mistake, and forgive ourselves for those not perfect done.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      That is right. We should have that kind of attitude which is forgiving for no one of us is perfect as you have said.

    1. Gil Camporazo Post author

      That is very true. Those who still harbor grudges to others who have sinned against them couldn’t sleep well.

  11. Gil Camporazo Post author

    Why are there still people who are unforgiving? I don’t think they are not Christians. Most of us are religious and it is too far to be unforgiving.

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