Why do people have so many relationships that break up? If I open Facebook I can see there are many updates from friends about breaking up with their mates. They post many pics with captions of their emotions after the breakup. I will read all those and feel unhappy. I wonder why people come close together and then break up. One of my observations on relationships made me want to write this article.
If I open Facebook I can see there are many updates from friends about breaking up with their mates. They post many pics with captions of their emotions after the breakup. I will read all those and feel unhappy. I wonder why people come close together and then break up. One of my observations on relationships made me want to write this article.
My observations on a friend whom I met online
In this connection, I was observing one person who is close to me, whom I have never met personally. He is an online friend, a BTech student from my native place but he became my friend through the well- known social site called MyLot. We would exchange our views and thoughts through Facebook chat. I became very close to him in the meantime. He is the first boy to whom I was talking and chatting online. We have been friends about 6 years now.
There were not many changes till he started working at the bank. I know that he has had online girlfriends but he was never very close to them. Two of his girlfriends also on my friend list and they used to chat with me too. In fact, I only made these two girls friends at his request. My friend has a very typical mentality and he always wants to have fun making friends with the girls. Then he wants to catch them. (Of course, this is the present tendency I have observed in many boys. They feel as if they are a big deal if they can play cat and mouse with a girl.)
After my friend finished his BTech he went to work at a bank outside my state. He was quite normal until his first training session, and then one day he texted me saying, “Don’t message me or call me.” I was really shocked at this message and I never expected this. He called and said that he met a girl during the training session and he started liking her. He also said that he chose two girls, in fact. And one of the girl’s character is not good. Oh god, I really felt surprised with his words!
After some days, my friend said that they broke up because her parents didn’t want her to marry him due to a caste difference. And to my surprise, I was told that he started liking another girl – a friend of his office mate. I felt so uneasy with all these choices he was making. But I was thinking that times are changing and maybe he should just choose the kind of girl he wants.
Recently I heard he became close with one of our common friends online. He stopped talking to me completely because I asked few questions which usually boys never answer (I think.)
Relationships are becoming weak
Now I felt the relationships are becoming weak and the partners are getting bored. Maybe because the couple doesn’t understand each other or doesn’t have faith in each other. Or they may be not friendly, and may be expecting something from each other which is not genuine. And you know, relationships have become very easy to tie up and break up for no reason nowadays. It has become like a fashion, like changing clothes every day.
What a relationship should be
I never encourage such relationships. I always feel to have a healthy relationship whatever may happen between them, couples should never breakup. The should try to set right their problems, try to understand each other, try to exchange their emotions, try to keep their promises, and give respect to their mate so they can live happily.
I also observed that many of the couples say that they can’t find their kind of spouse. It may not happen also. But if we look at olden days couples, they would love each other till their death. That is because they made compromises, which is very sweet and it is a must in a good relationship. The relationship should be like milk with water.
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